Catholic Adoption Services

PREGNANT|ADOPTING|REUNION|FAQ

Birthmother Frequently Asked Questions 

The following offers answers to questions we often receive from our clients. This is not comprehensive. Feel free to contact us directly with any other questions you may have or to get clarification about our services. See also our Letter to a Birthmother.


Q. If I call will I be pressured to place my child for adoption?

A. No one at Adoption Services, Inc. will try to force you to place your child for adoption. We are here to help you with your decision by providing individual and family counseling, adoption information, and medical support during your pregnancy.


Q. What happens once I have my baby?

A. If you do call us, a worker from Adoption Services, Inc. will visit with you in the hospital to make sure that after giving birth, you are still committed to a plan for adoption. If you choose to proceed with placing your child, a worker from Adoption Services, Inc. will bring a “Relinquishment of Parent and Child Relationship and Consent to Guardianship and Adoption” form to the hospital for you to sign, generally no sooner than 24 hours after your child is born. If you are placing an older child, the form is usually signed in our office. This consent form must be signed in the presence of a notary public.


Q. What happens after I sign the consent for adoption?

A. After you sign the consent form, you have 10 days to be sure about your decision. You may choose to sign a waiver so your child can be placed sooner with the adoptive family. If you sign the consent waiver you will have 5 days instead of 10 to be sure about your decision. If the 5th or 10th day occurs on a weekend or legal holiday the last day will then be counted as the next working day of the week. We start counting the days from the day after you sign the consent. During this waiting period we will be available to provide you with support and counseling services.


Q. When is my decision for adoption final?

A. After these 5 or 10 days are over you will not be able to change your mind to have your child back. An adoption can be overturned only if you can prove force, bribery, deception, or fraud on the part of Adoption Services, Inc. We will take every precaution to ensure that your rights are protected.


Q. What does the adoption consent form allow?

A. The consent form you sign allows Adoption Services, Inc. to obtain temporary legal guardianship of your child. This same consent form will give Adoption Services, Inc. the right to place your child for adoption, unless you change your mind within 5 or 10 days from the date on which you sign the consent and notify Adoption Services, Inc. within those days that you have changed your mind. You may also withdraw your consent to the adoption by filing a written affidavit with the clerk of the probate court in the county that is named on your consent to the adoption.


Q. Who is responsible for making medical decisions for my child before he or she is officially adopted by the family?

A. When you sign the consent form and the medical authorization form Adoption Services, Inc. will be responsible for your child’s medical care until your child is legally adopted or returned to you within your five or ten day period.


Q. Will I have to pay the medical bills for the birth of my child?

A. If you place your child with our agency, then Adoption Services, Inc. will pay agency approved pregnancy related medical expenses for you and your child that are not covered by Medicaid or insurance. If you do not have Medicaid or insurance Adoption Services, Inc. will pay approved medical expenses that are directly related to your pregnancy and childbirth. If you choose to parent your child, you will be responsible for all medical expenses.


Q. Do I have to place my child with a Catholic family?

A. Although we are supported by the Catholic Church we do not place only with Catholic families. We make an effort to honor birthparent requests regarding a family whenever possible while considering the best interests of the child being placed.


Q. How much will I be allowed to know about my child’s adoptive family?

A. You will not know the last name or address of the family who adopts your child, nor will they know your last name or address. Yours will be a confidential agency adoption. However you may choose to meet the adoptive family and receive a profile (without identifying information) of the family who adopts your child.


Q. How much contact can I have with my child after placing for adoption?

A. You will not be able to have any ongoing direct contact with your child, unless you and the adoptive parents both agree to this contact. In many adoptions further contact through visits, e-mails, pictures, letters and calls may be possible. Generally the agency will assist in these contacts for support and to maintain confidentiality. Regardless of the level of contact you and the family choose, you are certainly welcome to receive reports about your child from your adoption worker.


Q. Will I receive pictures and updates on my child?

A. You will generally have the opportunity to receive pictures of your child until the child’s 18th birthday. You will need to be responsible for giving us your current contact information. We ask that you not put these pictures on social media. The pictures are only available to you as long as the adoptive family feels it is in the best interests of the child. If you choose not to receive these pictures, Adoption Services, Inc. will keep them for you with in our files. You may decide to receive them at a later date. Pictures can help to reassure you that your child is well cared for and is deeply loved.


Q. Will I have to go to court?

A. When you sign the consent form you are agreeing that you will not be appearing in court about the adoption. You may be required to sign an affidavit (legal statement) stating that the information you have given us is true to the best of your knowledge.


Q. Do my parents have to sign the adoption consent with me if I am younger than 18 years old?

A. An additional attorney called a “guardian ad litem” will be assigned by the court to represent you if you are less than 18 years of age or if there are special legal concerns. This attorney will meet with you and ask you if you are making your decision to place your child for adoption of your own free will and will sign the consent form with you. This is for your protection as a minor. Your parents or guardian do not sign the consent form with you. You will not be charged a fee for the services of the guardian ad litem.


Q. Does the baby’s father have to sign a consent for adoption?

A. If anything in the paragraph below describes you or your child then the father of the child may need to agree to this adoption:

  • The birthparents are married to each other at the time the child was conceived or any time after that.
  • The birthparents are separated, but are not divorced.
  • The birthparents divorced after the child was conceived.
  • The father had custody of or adopted the child.
  • The father has otherwise legitimated the minor according to the laws of the place where the adoption will take place.

If the birthmother is married to someone other than the birthfather of her child, then her husband’s legal rights must also be terminated by the court. This is usually done by the husband signing his consent to the adoption. Whenever possible, Adoption Services, Inc. has the birthfather sign a relinquishment and consent form. This shows the court that everyone who has an interest in the child’s future agrees to the adoption. It also provides extra protection for the child, for the birthparents and for her or his family. There are some circumstances where the birthfather’s consent is not required. Since each case is different, the attorney for Adoption Services, Inc. or the guardian ad litem will explain the legal requirements in your particular situation. You will usually be required to sign an affidavit regarding the putative father of your child.


Q. Do I need to hire my own attorney for the adoption?

A. Adoption Services, Inc. will provide an attorney for the legal work for the adoption. If you are 18 years of age or older you have the right to hire an additional attorney of your own choosing. You will be responsible for the fees for any attorney you hire.


Q. Will I have to pay any fees for the adoption?

A. You will not be charged for any of the legal fees, court costs, attorney services or counseling services for the placement of your child. If you decide to parent your child you will still not be charged any fees.


Q. Will my adoption records be kept confidential?

A. All information and records are kept in the strictest confidence. Our adoption records are safely stored and secured at the offices of Adoption Services, Inc. and at the attorney’s office. They will be kept for 99 years, as required by law.


Q. Can I stay in contact with my child after the adoption?

A. You can stay in contact with your child by sending letters, gifts and pictures to the adoptive family through our agency. We hope you will choose to write a non-identifying letter to your child for us to give her or his adoptive parents to keep until your child is older. (We cannot accept a letter to your child if you put your last name or other identifying information on the letter). You may call, write, email or visit Adoption Services, Inc. at any time after your child is placed for adoption if we can be of assistance to you. There will be no charge for these services.


Q. When can I open the adoption with my child?

A. When your child reaches the age of 18, or any time after that, you may notify us that you would like to have contact with your child. If your child also informs us that she or he would like to have contact with you, then we will help you make contact. This contact can be by mutual voluntary consent only.